This is the first year my husband and I will spend the holidays as a family of three. I love this time of year and I’m looking forward to taking tiny human out to see the lights; I have plans to make lots of yummy Christmas food (although we’ll see how much of that I actually end up doing) and I’ve started my annual campaign to persuade Mr BWYA that we should get a Christmas tree. For the baby, of course… At the same time, I know people can find themselves alone for the holidays for many reasons. The emphasis on togetherness during this period can bring home a sense of loneliness and discomfort, which might leave you feeling at a loose end even if—like me—you usually enjoy your solo time.
Whatever situation we’re in, we can all start by checking any expectations or beliefs that the holidays “should” be a specific way. There can be a lot of pressure on one or two days of the year to be perfect in all ways, and life isn’t like that. You’re allowed to feel however you feel about the holidays. With that being said, if you’re alone for the holidays you can make the most of having a few free days to spend time with yourself. Here are a few suggestions.
1. Do something you used to enjoy as a kid
When was the last time you indulged in play? What did you used to love doing that’s fallen by the wayside lately? Give yourself permission to do that now.
2. Get stuck in a meaty book
I enjoyed this one earlier this year. You can also check out these suggestions for reading on relationships, self-care and personal growth.
3. Start that project you’ve been dreaming about since forever
There’s no time like the present. Make the most of having a few free days to immerse yourself and enjoy.
4. Try something new
Stuck for inspiration? Take a walk through your local area, look at community boards online and in local shops (Starbucks usually has one). Pick something that strikes your fancy and go for it.
5. Make a list of everything that brings you joy
Pick three things off the list and do them.
6. Make a list of everything that brings you comfort
Pick three things off the list and do them.
7. Enjoy an at-home retreat or a DIY creative retreat
Use the time for intensive self-care or give your creativity the chance to run wild. I wrote more about creating your own DIY creative retreat here.
8. Go for a hike or a long walk, just you and your thoughts
If you live in an urban environment, get out into the country. Alternatively, indulge your urban curiosity and open yourself up to seeing your local area in a new light. Consider going music and podcast free (although if you want something, there’s plenty of back episodes of the Becoming Who You Are podcast to enjoy).
9. Have a holiday clear out and cleanse your physical space
Put on your favourite music and get rid of anything you own that no longer brings you joy. I had mixed feelings about this book, but it shares useful tips for decluttering and creating a peaceful home environment.
10. Recreate your favourite aspects of the holidays in solo form
Is it the food? Cook yourself a slap-up meal. The movies? Queue up a few and enjoy a marathon. Do you have little traditions you honour each year? Make time for those.
11. Volunteer
If you don’t want to be alone for the holidays, this is a life-enriching way to connect to a purpose that’s bigger than yourself. Spend time at a local animal shelter or soup kitchen. Due to people travelling and taking time off during the holidays, you might find they’re glad of an extra helping hand.
12. Do a yearly review
Take time to reflect on your last trip around the sun and dream and scheme for the next. I’ll be sharing the template I use for doing a personal end-of-year review next time.
What suggestions do you have for fun things to do if you’re alone for the holidays? Leave a comment and share your thoughts.
Further reading: holiday permissions & 4 of the best planners for a happy and healthy year
